The dad is sad too

The dad is sad too. It is his baby too. It is his loss too.  

It is true, the dad is sad too, when the #infertility treatment fails, the baby is #stillborn or the partner has a #miscarriage.

To be honest, I did not think about him. I had no energy left. I gave birth to a tiny lifeless baby.

I was so busy with dealing with my own emotions  and trying to get “my life back together”. I felt very alone. I had to go through the physical pain by myself. I was angry and sad and everything at the same time.

How could I think about him?

He did not really show that he was sad. So maybe he didn’t care.

He was very quiet. He didn’t want to talk about it.

He didn’t want to discuss how we bury the baby.  He didn’t want to see the baby.

I thought he didn’t care.

Now I know that this was his way of coping. His way of dealing with the situation.

His way of being sad.

The dad is sad too. It is his baby too. It is his loss too.  

by Anna Schueth

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